The Heart of a Missionary-


Codependency and “Missionary” Dating-

Posted in Randomness,Uncategorized by misspicture on March 15, 2010
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Last weekend i had a hard conversation with a friend of mine. He is precious and I love him very much.

He is dating a beautiful almost-perfect non christian girl.

And this broke my heart

I remember this guy being so in love with Jesus. So involved at his church. So involved in fellowship with other believers and building up relationships with godly men. I remember him sharing his faith whenever he had a chance to. I remember this guy following Jesus.

I sat with him this weekend.

And i saw a guy who is in love with a girl.  spends all his time with her. when he’s not with her he’s thinking about her. If he’s not thinking about her he’s probably talking to her on the phone. This guy lost his friendships with godly men -not because his friends wernt there for him. But because he didnt care for them anymore-. This guy is not spending time with God. He is not sharing his faith. He is starting to get bitter. He is hurting. He is alone.

I told him what he needed to hear.

He hated me for a few seconds. I saw it in his eyes. But then he thanked me.

Im not sure if he is going to end that relationship. He really loves her.

But im afraid he is loving her more than he is loving God.

And that is never. NEVER. A good thing.

I hurt for him. Not only because he is alone right now (that is a big part of my concern) But mostly because the girl he is inlove with does not know His saviour. Im sure that sucks.

This is a sad post.
Because this makes me very sad.

THOUGHTS?

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  1. Michelle Teague said,

    La pregunta seria! como se canaliza ese AMOR?
    Si hubiese leido esto unos meses atras de seguro lo criticaria, diria esta en desobediencia porque ella no es Cristiana y rapidamente lo juzgaría lo se! Pero hoy me pregunto y es que acaso las relaciones Cristianas no se equivocan o por instantes o periodos largos el idilio nubla la visión a la meta y el enfoque en este caso Dios!

    Se que diriamos si la relación es de Dios El nunca deja de estar presente y es cierto pero sometime Dios esta presente solo que no sabemos canalizar el Amor, por lo que pienso que por mas Dificil que sea la respuestas solo las encontramos en El!

    Pero espero que tu amigo pueda recordar como mantenerse enfocado en El y por El y de seguro lo hara!

    • misspicture said,

      La teoria es facil. La practica no lo es tanto. y lo sabemos. Por eso me siento tan tiste por el. Yo, en mi cero experiencia, considero que nosotros tenemos el poder para invitar o no a Dios en nuestras relaciones. Si es de Dios o no… pues eso solo lo controlamos nosotros. Dios, obviamente, bendice las relaciones cuando los miembros le aman. Pero mantener a Dios como el centro, aunque tarea dificil aun en la solteria y de seguro mas complicada cuando lo tratas de hacer con otra persona, es tarea de nosotros. Creo que se trata de disciplia. La familia, iglesia y amigos juegan un papel clave en manetenernos con los pies bajo la tierra. (no siempre, though)
      te amo-

      • misspicture said,

        sobre la tierra, digo

  2. Michelle Teague said,

    is not simple… pero si hay que hacerlo….! pero tu tranquila que tu misionerito va a ser lo maximo yo que te lo digo 🙂 pero gracias Diana por lo que escribes 🙂

    yo tambien te amo 🙂

    • misspicture said,

      Mi misionerito es lo maximo. 🙂


  3. sounds bad….
    god
    family
    yourself
    thats what will always be with you until u die…thats the only kind of love that never change, never fear, never doubt, never leaves.


  4. […] Remember my friend who was dating a non-believer? you can read about his story HERE […]


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